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 Scottsdale
Author provides tips for healthy relationships
by Beth Duckett - Oct. 20, 2009 11:50 AM
The Arizona Republic
Twenty years ago, Marilyn Frazer joined a support group while going through a difficult divorce. The decision changed her life. "It was the only thing that helped me through it," said Frazer, a Scottsdale resident.
After, Frazer wrote "The Relationship Trap: Women Who Ignored the Warning Signs that Said This Guy's Not for You." The book chronicles the stories of women who have dealt with cheating, betrayal and emotional and physical abuse.
Driven by hardships in her life, Frazer interviewed the women one by one, recording their experiences but changing their names for privacy reasons.
Frazer will sign copies of the book Thursday at the Club for Women Fitness Center, 4030 E. Thunderbird Road, Phoenix. She will discuss the book and offer tips
for healthy relationships.
Question: What do you think is the No. 1 mistake women make in relationships?
Answer: The No. 1 mistake is not looking for the warning signs before they get into it. Once they're in it, they're in the trap. Sometimes they think they can't get
out or they don't want to get out. I do talk about why women ignore the signs and what the signs are.
Q: What inspired you to write "The Relationship Trap"?
A: It all began when I went through a difficult divorce about 20 years ago. The only thing that helped me through was a divorce support group I attended. About a
year later, I went back to that group and volunteered to be facilitator. I did that for the next four years and over 200 women came through the group. I learned so
much from them. If you fast forward to 1998, when I went back to school to get a master's degree in counseling, I needed an idea for a thesis. Again, I thought
about that question I wondered about 20 years ago - Why do women ignore the warning signs that say this guy is not for you? I decided to use that question as
the thesis. Soon after I graduated in the year 2000, I started writing the book.
Q: How did you locate women to interview?
A: Some were personal recommendations. Some were complete strangers. I found a variety of women with a variety of experience and different types of relationships - young, old, with money, with no money, and so forth. I tried not to interview people I knew.
Q: What is your overall goal?
A: To help women. When I went back to school I did get a counseling degree and I went on to get an advanced degree in marriage and family counseling to help women. I taught elementary school and middle school before that. I didn't want to go back to teaching anymore. That career was over. I didn't want to spend the rest of my life playing cards or watching soap operas. I wanted to do something more productive in my life.
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